Widow care is an important ministry in the local church. The Bible declares the following:

  • “Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, to visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction…”. (James 1:27)
  • “Honour widows that are widows indeed.” (1Tim 5:3)

But what is really meant when someone uses the term widow? And how might the church minister the love of Christ to this important part of our body? And if you find yourself widowed, what are some of the principles God would have you to know about this season of your life? These questions (and others) are what this series of articles is designed to answer.

Let’s start with some basics. By definition, a widow is “a woman whose husband is dead and has not remarried”. By contrast, a widower is “a man whose wife is dead and has not remarried”. Widowhood is initially associated with the pain of loss and the process of grief. In future articles, we will address the process of grief, as well as the ways in which one may grieve well. Here are five important “Do’s and Don’ts” for those in the season of widowhood:

  1. Don’t let yourself be consumed with self-pity…DO learn contentment with your circumstances (I Timothy 6:6)
  2. Don’t be consumed in looking for another marriage partner to take care of you…DO look to the Lord to meet your needs (Isaiah 54:5)
  3. Don’t become consumed with false guilt…DO accept God’s grace for you (2 Corinthians 9:8)
  4. Don’t make major decisions while in grief…DO establish priorities (Ecclesiastes 3:4)
  5. Don’t compare your circumstances to others…DO focus on the role God has for you now (Romans 12:1)

Here are several of the roles/ministries those in widowhood might play:

  1. Prayer – Fasting and praying on behalf of others. (Luke 2:36-37)
  2. Counsel – Counseling with godly wisdom. (Ruth 2:2)
  3. Teaching – Training other in sound doctrine and how to live a godly life. (Titus 2:1-5)
  4. Service – Working to meet the needs of others. (Ruth 2:17-18)
  5. Hospitality – Extending a generous and warm welcome to guests. (1 Kings 17:9)
  6. Recognizing and providing financial needs of Christians. (Luke 21:1-4)

Here at Graceway, we strive to learn to love well as we minister to widows within our congregation as well as in our community. Widow Care ministry opportunities include (but are not limited to) visitations, meal provisions, committing to pray for/with a widow on a regular basis, helping with light house cleaning, yard work, and home repairs, and transportation assistance. If you’d like to join us in this partnership, please contact Pastor Donivan Best.